DEAR DEIDRE: I AM having red-hot threesomes with the couple I work for. I don’t know if I can face going back to boring missionary sex with an ex who wants to try again.
I am 28 and work as a nanny for a couple I really get on with. The wife is 37 and the husband is 38. I have always liked them, especially as they don’t treat me like staff.
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I don’t normally drink much but last April the two children I look after went to stay with their grandparents.
We were all joking that we had nothing to do without the children there. So we cooked a meal and had drinks together.
By midnight it was getting very flirty between all three of us. And when the wife started running her fingers up my arm, I felt so turned on.
Next we started kissing and then the husband joined in. We all had sex in the lounge then went up to their bed for more. It was amazing.
I have always struggled to orgasm but I climaxed multiple times that night.
I am a really practical person and can separate work from sex, as can they, so the experience hasn’t made things awkward at all.
Since then, we have all gone to bed together at least twice a week. They have taught me incredible things about getting intimate and my body.
But now my boyfriend of three years, who broke up with me last March, wants us to get back together.
I did love him and thought we would ultimately get married but I’m not sure I can go back to how boring it was in bed. He’s a two minutes, lights off and missionary kind of man.
I’m planning to get back together with him and continue my special arrangement with my employers in secret. Stopping it isn’t an option.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Why would you want to cheat on someone you consider as your future husband? It would be far better to concentrate on improving your sex life with him than to secretly continue an affair with your employers.
Tell your boyfriend you would like to give your relationship another chance but you would like to be more adventurous in bed.
And while you and your employers might be navigating your unusual arrangement now, the danger with threesomes is that very often emotions get involved and someone gets hurt.
It would be far better to remain purely professional for everyone’s sake. I’m sending you my support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex, which you and your boyfriend can read together.
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