I don't understand why my partner and son hate each other so much

DEAR DEIDRE: THERE is such hate between my partner and son – but I love my boy and can’t put him out on the street.

I am 58 and my girlfriend is 56. We have been together for six years. My lad is from a previous relationship and lives with us.

He is 32. My partner says nasty things about him, like “he is a waste of space”.

They have never seen eye to eye and I doubt they ever will. I feel it’s my house and I should be able to have who I like living here.

The love diminishes each time she puts him down and swears at him.

I tell her I can’t stand it, but she never stops. It upsets me so much but I don’t know what to do.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You are right to be upset. Parents can feel very protective about their own children.

She may not see eye to eye with your son but she can be respectful and civil.

Perhaps she insecure or jealous and actually sees him as a threat.

Ask your partner and son to sit down together with you and talk this through.

You can find support through Family Lives (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222) who will understand the issues here.

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