DEAR DEIDRE: WHENEVER my daughter and I meet, she makes horrible remarks. I now dread seeing her.
She is 34 and I am 55.
I was babysitting my one-year-old granddaughter recently so my daughter could see her friends.
She asked if her dress made her look fat and I said: “You look lovely.”
She snapped that she meant fat by her standards, not mine. I am a size 12!
If I protest, she says I am too sensitive. It sounds trivial but her comments are hurtful. I brace myself for our get-togethers but it’s a rare day with no put-downs.
DEIDRE SAYS: The one person most of us can rely on for unconditional love is our mum, so it is often her we take out bad feelings on.
Don’t wait for the next comment. Tell her you need to have a talk when you won’t be interrupted by the baby or family.
Say you are NOT being over-sensitive, that her comments hurt and you want to know what is bothering her.
Has she given up a career to be a mum? Where is your granddaughter’s dad in all this? Whatever is going on, believe me, your daughter needs her mum.
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