DEAR DEIDRE: MY dating site profile says that I’m 32, single and on the hunt for some fun.
What my matches don’t know is I’m actually a 35-year-old married mum of two.
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I downloaded the app when I was home alone one evening.
It was only because I wanted to see what had changed since I was “out there” six years ago.
But now I’m stuck in this web of lies — and love the attention.
My husband is 37, and we met online. We don’t have a bad marriage but it’s not very exciting and our sex life is the same.
Twice a week we get intimate for 20 minutes, go through the same three positions and then cuddle for another ten. I’d love more passion.
So when I matched with this gorgeous builder, I couldn’t resist meeting him for a drink.
The fact I knew I shouldn’t gave me such a buzz.
We met in a hotel bar in London at my suggestion as I thought going into in our local town was risky.
The date was great — we had loads in common and laughed a lot.
After a few more drinks my date asked if I wanted to head upstairs. I knew I shouldn’t, but that spurred me on more.
Before we even made it out of the lift we were pulling at each other’s clothes.
We ended up having sex twice and it was great, in positions I had never even tried.
The next day, I felt a little guilty but that didn’t stop me from setting up a second date for a couple of weeks later.
I met my best friend for a catch-up and I thought she’d find the whole thing hilarious.
She was quite the player when we were younger and cheated on all her boyfriends. But she was horrified.
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But she said: “I can’t believe you’d risk your happy little family for a fling.”
Now it’s dawned on me: What the hell am I doing?
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DEIDRE SAYS: There is nothing wrong with craving excitement or passion. But an affair is a dangerous way to get it.
Rather than diverting your attention away from your relationship, you need to confront these problems head-on.
Explain to your partner you are missing this passion. He might not even realise.
It might be easier to do this with a counsellor. Contact tavistockrelationships.org to find someone local.
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Learn from this experience and put all your effort into your marriage and move on.
Coming clean could lead to trust issues, and you may not get the second chance you are after.
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