DEAR DEIDRE: I’M having regular and exciting sex with a woman I’ve known since she was at school with my younger brother – but she’s making me feel pressured.
It all started when I ran into her in town. She is now 38 and I’m 43.
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We chatted and she said she misses having a man around the house since she got divorced a couple of years ago.
She moaned about needing some shelves put up and I offered to help.
I went round there at the weekend, sorted the shelves and then we had a coffee.
We talked about our relationships — how she hadn’t met anyone right since her divorce and how I feel frustrated as my wife doesn’t want sex any more. She’s 45, our kids are 19 and 23.
My friend said that she gets frustrated too, and I was taken aback by how frank she was.
I was due home for lunch by then but she said I should go back to hers the next day and we could “sort some more things out”. I was very excited and agreed.
She was wearing just a dressing gown when I got there. She led me to her bedroom and we had sex. She clearly loved it and so did I.
But she became very demanding and started expecting sex three or four times a week.
I found it difficult to keep up with her and even got Viagra-type pills off the internet.
Lockdown arrived and my wife started asking who I was spending so much time with.
I told her I was meeting some mates so we could exercise together — socially distanced of course.
I’ve tried to cut down seeing my lover to once a week but she says that isn’t enough.
She wants us to get together properly and drops hints that she will tell my wife what we have been doing if I attempt to back away.
It was great at first but she scares me now. How do I get out of the relationship?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Play with fire and you risk getting your fingers burned, not to mention taking risks with coronavirus.
But your best tactic is to call her bluff.
Say it is best for both of you to end the relationship now.
She should be free to meet someone who can give her 100 per cent while you need to work on your marriage because you’ve realised you can’t let your family down.
Say you are sorry if this is causing her any hurt but be firm you are not going to change your mind.
If you are determined, she has nothing to gain by telling your wife. But be complimentary about her as a person and a lover so you make her feel regretful, not malicious.
But then do work on your marriage and your sex life.
My e-leaflet on Reviving A Woman’s Sex Drive will help.
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