DEAR DEIDRE: I’M beginning to think my husband groomed me ten years ago. I was 16 then and my now-husband was my boss.

I’m a mum to a four-year-old son but in 2012, I worked in a newsagent.

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My mother was never at home and I never knew my dad. Mum was drinking too much and bringing men back home for casual sex. It was awful.

I went into work one Saturday and my boss told me he was concerned, and suggested that I move in with him.

He protected me and made me feel safe. We became lovers but he was 15 years older than me.

He bought me gifts and my friends were so jealous. Then he gave me an engagement ring and we married six months later.

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But I lost my virginity at 14 to a different man who has just been in the paper for grooming girls. He’s 56 now.

Older men have always been attracted to me and I’m now wondering if my husband groomed me too.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Possibly, as he was an adult and you were 16 when he offered you a roof over your head.

He may have preyed on your vulnerability.

But because you are now married and have a child together, it may feel very different.

You’ll find understanding and advice from the NSPCC (nspcc.org.uk, 0808 800 5000), whether you want to talk about your situation now or what happened to you at 14.

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