We hate to be the bearers of bad news, but it turns out that cheating is fairly common among couples.
A recent study has revealed that more than half of women and men have cheated on their significant other. Not only that, but many of them apparently feel happier in their relationships after having cheated.
Don’t go digging for clues of cheating just yet – the findings were released by Illicit Encounters, an extra-martial site, meaning that most of the people polled are likely already having an affair or looking to do so.
However, it’s no secret that cheating happens. So, to find out more about why people are unfaithful, we asked six women and men to share their tales with us – here’s what they said.
Ruby, 49
‘I had an affair with a married work colleague.
‘When you wear a uniform and work nights dealing with traumatic incidents, you tend to get closer to colleagues than you might normally do.
‘We started dating (because it wasn’t just a sex thing) and within a month or two it developed from walks and beautiful sunsets into nights away and adventurous sex.
‘He moved in with me, but because of his two young children he went back to his wife after a month or so. I was totally heartbroken.
‘I also once met his wife, who told me that he would come back to me because he loved me, not her – but he didn’t. Their marriage lasted a few more years and then he left her for someone else.
‘About 15 years later, we met up again on a sex site and rekindled that sexual flame, it was great fun. He was still married.
‘It’s now been a year since we had sex and I honestly don’t think I would go back again. My husband had an affair with a colleague, so I see that as a little bit of rough justice and karma biting me on the bum!’
Laura*, 37
‘I’ve been having an issue with a guy who lied to me about his marriage having ended.
‘We initially got together after a few drinks at an industry event and after that chatted via messaging apps every day. He told me that he wanted to take me on dates and such, but it never transpired.
‘We got together again at another industry event and a day or so after I got an anonymous message telling me to check his wife’s Facebook, as she has a photo of them together on it. On holiday. The holiday he went on with his ‘mum’ while we were chatting.
‘It’s taken me months to finally let it all out to him with regards to his lies, but I finally told him this week (due to fear about work-related stuff, our community is very close and chatty) that I was fed up with his lies as it was causing me mental damage. No apology from him yet. And I doubt there will be one.
‘He should be glad I’m not the type who would approach his wife.’
Jules, 37
Edward*, 29
‘This girl started working at my office and I thought she was super hot.
‘One night, I asked her to hang out and we ended up at a club where her boyfriend works.
‘We got trashed on free drinks that her boyfriend (the barman) gave us and afterwards, we got a cab back to hers – he stayed at work – and I smoothly vomited all over her carpet.
‘After that ordeal, I still ended up handcuffed to her bed post. She returned into the room after ‘getting ready’, sporting a latex nurse outfit and a whip.
‘I felt bad for her boyfriend, but I was very young at the time and not as bothered as I would have been now. I’m not sure if she ever told him about it.
‘We didn’t have sex again, but she did suck me off once.’
Patty*, 25
‘Two years ago, I met up with my French exchange in Paris.
‘We used to have a romantic relationship when we were teenagers.
‘He’s married now, and spent the whole time talking about how he loves to cheat on his wife. He said he married her so she could stay in the country (I think she’s Russian).
‘I was shocked by his openness but spent the entire evening flirting with him. I had zero intention to do anything with him, but there was so much sexual chemistry.
‘After plenty of red wine, I suggested we head off. As he walked me to the train station, he grabbed my hands and we kissed – it was pretty f***ing hot, but it felt very wrong in my gut.
‘I spent the next day crying about it and he kept messaging, telling me we should meet at his place during his lunch break.
‘We met up for lunch instead, and I told him how unhappy I was with what we did. He got defensive and said “if you wanna call my wife, go for it” and put his phone next to me. He then told me how much he loves lying, how he doesn’t dream, and how he likes to f*** his wife’s friends.
‘After lunch we said our goodbyes and messaged a bit but I have now totally cut him from my life.’
Samantha, 47
*Names have been changed.
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