Woman asks if she should stop her child’s play dates at the home of a mother with a ‘very obvious’ cocaine habit – but parents SLAM her for wondering why she would even ‘question it’
- She revealed on the post, which has 200 replies, the mother had a cocaine habit
- The woman said that it is ‘Very clear physically she has a very bad coke habit’
- Other mothers criticised her for judging the woman – solely on her appearance
A woman has taken to a parenting website to ask whether its safe for her daughter to continue having play dates with a friend – as her mother has a ‘very obvious’ drug habit.
The woman from the UK, took to Mumsnet, to ask whether she should stop her child seeing her friend – as she didn’t want to punish her daughter because of her friends mother.
She went on to say that her daughter has had a few play dates with her, but it was starting to make her feel ‘anxious’ – because of the mothers problem.
Parents, however, took to the post to wonder why she was even questioning the safety of her child.
A woman has taken to parenting website to ask whether its safe for her daughter to continue having play dates with a friend – as her mother has a ‘very obvious’ drug habit. Stock picture
The woman from the UK, took to Mumsnet , to ask whether she should stop her child seeing her friend – as she didn’t want to punish her daughter because of her friends mother
Her post from last night, which has had over 200 responses, carried on by saying: ‘She’s been on a couple of play dates to her house before, all well. But I keep feeling very anxious about it given her issues.
‘Mum appears to be a very good and attentive mum, but it’s very clear physically she has a very bad coke habit.
She went on to say: ‘Having her DD over to ours hasn’t been an option, as she has a condition which makes it tricky to be away from a specialist Carer.
Mothers took to the post to wonder why she was even questioning the safety of her child
‘I don’t really know what to do here. I don’t want to punish my child or hers by discouraging the relationship, but I feel uneasy about play dates.’
Other mothers questioned why she was even bringing it up – and that she should already know the answer.
One said: ‘Then child care it is. I can’t understand why you would even question this.
‘No it is not ok to allow your child go to a known addicts home, she may have been snorting off the counter, a CD case the girls pick up to use, or her dealer could cause trouble, she could collapse while using, I’ve seen it happen.
A mother has faced backlash over whether she should let her daughter have play dates at a mothers house – who has a drug problem
While one more said: ‘So put her in child care. Why would you leave her unsupervised with a known addict? I’m genuinely confused as to why this is even a question?’
Some offered advice however, with one saying: ‘Have playdates when you’re present. If that means weekends only, so be it. Obviously easier to enforce when your child is a pre-schooler, but if your child is older you could suggest park trips, cinema, whatever the girls would enjoy as a weekend treat, and they can just see each other at school on weekdays.
In the original post she didn’t clarify how she knew that the mother had a problem – instead saying: ‘It’s very clear physically she has a very bad coke habit.’
Other mothers, initially responded to the post, criticising her for judging the woman – solely on her appearance.
Other mothers offered her advice and some slammed her for assuming she had a problem because of her physical appearance
‘So, sorry, you’ve just diagnosed her with a coke habit because of how she looks? Or she has specifically said she has one?’
While another angry parent said: ‘Is this going to be a “Oh she’s great we all love her and she’s a brilliant mum, but she sniffs a lot.”?
One mother revealed her allergy may also look the same: ‘I have a nasty dust allergy and have to blow my nose all the time. It makes my face look haggard when I’ve had a bad flare-up and sometimes I have to wipe my nose or sniff.’
The woman carried on with: ‘It’s soul-destroying but I can’t do anything about it. People make assumptions. Are you sure you’ve pegged her correctly? Either way, the kid is probably very glad to get a playdate, and your DD is visiting to see the child, not the mum.’
Defending herself the mother, who wrote the original post, said: ‘I know explicitly my end due to the fact I know her husband, her sister, her brother in law, her dealers ex partner and see her daily looking like absolute death with sores in her nose, dripping nose, skin 20 years older than she should have, always in dark glasses.’
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