ON screen, the Loose Women can hardly be accused of holding back when it comes to sharing intimate secrets about their sex lives and relationships.
Now, in rip-roaring new book Loose Women Let Loose, Jane Moore, Coleen Nolan, Janet Street-Porter, Kaye Adams, Nadia Sawalha, Saira Khan and Gloria Hunniford lay their bedroom secrets bare.
From sex toys and getting frisky in public to forgiving a cheating partner, here are exclusive snippets from their naughty anecdotes.
Would you be happy to satisfy yourself with a sex toy?
COLEEN admits she has used a buzzing sex toy in her time, although the results were not quite what she was looking for.
“Years ago, there was a, er, very rampant product on the market that was everywhere,” she says.
“My friend had got me one as a present – strange friend, right? – and I put it away, out of mind.
“Then this one night my husband Ray and I had this blazing row, so in a rage, I thought to myself, ‘Well, I don’t need you because I have my friend’.
“So I grabbed my toy and stomped off to the spare room where I got friendly with it. I’m not joking, but no sooner had I turned it on than I fell fast asleep, as I’d had a couple of glasses of wine.
'What's that buzzing?'
“A little while later the sound of buzzing wakes me up and I’m thinking, ‘What’s that buzzing?’
“Looking back, it wasn’t the best experience I had.”
Gloria recalls an experience when she was recording a TV show which left her rather red-faced.
“I was filming Cash In The Attic and was rooting around in the drawers looking for something to auction when I stumbled across a collection of sex toys,” she says.
“I didn’t know what they were at the time and started waving them around at the crew. I soon learned what they were for! But I didn’t auction them off.”
Is there such thing as love at first sight?
SOME say that to truly fall in love we need to get to know someone over years before a deep love can be formed.
But Nadia learnt first-hand that love at first sight does exist, having experienced it when she met TV director Mark Adderley on the set of TV dating show Perfect Partner, in 2002.
There was a spark between them from day one.
She says: “Really quickly, the relationship became very intense. Although there were many differences between us, we had this incredible chemistry.”
A baby and marriage followed very soon after, which Nadia believes strengthened their commitment to making the relationship work long-term.
Jane is not so sure: “I don’t believe you can have love at first sight. Lust perhaps, but not love.”
Janet remembers a time she was set up on a blind date by a colleague, during which she experienced anything but love at first sight.
“A girl I worked with had met a man in a bar who was obsessed with me and told him, ‘I’ll introduce you to Janet if you agree to go out with me afterwards’.
“As my boyfriend was away, I agreed to meet him. I picked a restaurant miles from anywhere that had flattering dim lighting.
'Have sex on the second date'
“When I arrived, I could see this really fit bloke sitting in a candlelit alcove. I sat down and I said, ‘I’m only here because of the deal you made’. And he said, ‘Well, let’s just enjoy it, shall we?’
“That was at 1.30pm. By 4pm I was back at his place and we then went on to have an affair for four or five months.”
As we all know, Janet is a woman who enjoys the sexual side of relationships.
She enthusiastically encourages people to have sex as early as possible.
“Have sex on the first or second date,” she declares. “If you have sex with them and you are not compatible, you might as well dump them straight away.”
Kaye says it is not always wise to rush into a relationship.
“When I met Ian I didn’t really think he was my type,” she recalls of her relationship, which has spanned over 30 years.
“Then we went out one night for a pizza and that was it – everything just clicked into place.
“But it had been a real slow-burner.”
Can a marriage survive an affair?
COULD you forgive your other half if you found out he was having a long-term intimate relationship with another woman?
Or could you ever imagine yourself embarking on an illicit fling with another man? Could your marriage survive the deception?
Saira says that because of the length of their relationship, she would definitely try to work things out if husband Steve admitted to a one-night stand.
“As I am so confident about who I am, my relationship and my husband, I don’t think that a one-night stand would put my marriage in jeopardy.
“I think we’d talk about it and I would ask why it happened. But I don’t think it would be the end of the world. We are all human. We all make mistakes.
“Besides, I think a drunken one-night stand is different to being calculating and having an affair behind someone’s back.”
Coleen, who was cheated on by first husband Shane Richie, is surprisingly open-minded when considering what she would do if another partner were to do the dirty on her.
'I was brilliant at lying'
“I think it depends massively on the circumstances of the affair and what kind it is, as I do think there’s a difference between a full-blown affair and a moment of madness,” she reasons.
Gloria says she would find it difficult to forgive her husband if he strayed.
“I cannot bear cheating on any level,” she says. “And I can’t bear people who tell lies, who don’t keep their word.” So what is going through the mind of a person actively gallivanting around behind someone’s back?
Janet explains: “When I was married the first time, all those years ago, I was unfaithful. I was brilliant at lying, I could do an A level in lying.
“My husband didn’t find out until he followed us to our ‘love nest’ in the New Forest and confronted me.”
She told him she and her secret lover were merely conducting an interview but her husband didn’t buy it.
“He said I had two minutes to get in the car and if I came back to London with him, our marriage would carry on and he’d forgive me,” Janet remembers.
“But I spent the first half of the two minutes arguing and then I went indoors to think about it and then he drove off.”
Would you have revenge sex with a friend's boyfriend?
IF a friend did the dirty on you and, say, stole your fella, what would you do about it? Forgive and forget?
Well, maybe. It happens. But if there was a moment that arose later down the line and that frenemy did something that really hacked you off, would you take your revenge like one of our Loose Women did and sleep with their man?
“I’m not proud of this, and it’s very bad,” Coleen begins.
“But a long, long time ago, this girl had an affair with a boyfriend of mine. Me and the guy finished and this girl started dating him.”
Coleen stayed mates with the ex and even forged a friendship with the girl who had originally broken her heart.
But, predictably, that relationship did not last for long.
“We got to be friends, but then she said to me one day about ‘our’ boyfriend straying, ‘The difference between you and me is, he wouldn’t do it to me’.
“I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. So do you know what I did? Yes, I went and slept with my ex again that night, and the next day walked straight up to her and said, ‘He did’.
“She was really upset and I did feel really bad.
“But she shouldn’t have been so cocky with herself. She had only herself to blame.”
Do you want to spice up your sex life?
WE all agree that sometimes a relationship can get a bit stale. This can have an impact on your sex life too.
Nadia laughs as she says: “In a longer-term relationship it can definitely be difficult to be spontaneously spontaneous. I have been known to book a surprise lunch and a hotel for an afternoon. Nudge, nudge, wink, wink.”
Coleen says that there was a time in her life when she couldn’t get enough action from her then-husband Shane Richie.
“When I was very young, I used to have sex wherever it took my fancy,” she says.
“We even did it in an NCP car park in Birmingham. We had got there early for a concert and the car park was empty.
“Things, er, happened, but when it was over we suddenly realised the car park had got full and we hadn’t noticed because the windows had steamed up.
“When you are younger you just do it anywhere. I think we get lazy. When you first meet someone, you make the effort and you find the time for sex.
'Why shouldn't we be daring now?'
“Then we become complacent and we tell each other we haven’t got time.
“But it was fine for the first year, so why shouldn’t we be as daring now?” But spontaneous sex can sometimes be hazardous.
Janet recalls a time she ended up with a sex-related injury. “Back in the 1980s, waterbeds were a thing,” she laughs.
“My bloke and I had been to a party, we staggered up to my fourth-floor flat and jumped on the waterbed. But once we got on it the bed was like a wave machine and I kept banging my head against the wall.
“After a while, I felt I was going to be sick so I clambered off the bed and crawled across the room and into the bathroom, but once I got to the toilet I ended up banging my head on the toilet.”
Is there such a thing as 'The One'?
WHETHER you are a cynic or a romantic at heart; whether you believe there is one special person for everyone or not, there’s no harm in having a look, is there?
Saira reckons that we have been conditioned to believe that we are supposed to seek out just one person for life, when in fact we may need to find various suitors throughout our lives who will provide us with different forms of support.
“I think we are brainwashed into thinking there is just The One,” Saira says.
“But I don’t believe in this. I don’t think there is just one person. I think there are various people who could potentially come into our lives at different points.”
She argues that when we are younger, we tend to need people who encourage us to have fun – which is what she did despite of a strict religious upbringing.
When you are ready to settle with kids, you are looking for someone who will be a good father and will be kind.
Then, after having kids, we may go on a big journey that may require someone new.
“I have said to my husband, ‘I don’t think there is one person to fulfil all our needs’,” she says.
While Saira says she and her husband Steve – who she has been with for almost 15 years – are happy and she feels fulfilled, she is aware dynamics could change over time.
“I am never scared about discussing our relationship,” she says. “In any marriage there are ups and downs. But Steve and I are used to talking about problems and finding solutions.”
- Extracted from Loose Women Let Loose (£20, Hamlyn), out October 3.
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