DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER getting divorced, I didn’t expect to find a new love. But I’ve found someone perfect for me.
I’m a 53-year-old man and have been with my new girlfriend for three months.
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She’s 49 and wonderful but I suffer anxiety when we get intimate. I seize up and struggle to keep an erection.
I don’t smoke, or drink much, so cannot understand.
My girlfriend is loving and patient and says I just need to relax, but I worry her patience won’t last.
Divorce can destroy self-esteem. This a new relationship and you need to take things more slowly.
DEIDRE SAYS: Put off intercourse for now.
It is much better to focus on getting to know each other better both physically and emotionally through talking and touching.
Remember what fun it was when you were a teenager? Once you’ve developed comfortable intimacy, you’ll probably find this problem will sort itself out.
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