Bride reveals her mother-in-law is demanding that the couple sign a CONTRACT saying they will only have one kid – or she will pull funding for the pricey wedding that SHE insisted on
- A bride, whose parents are deceased, took to Reddit to share the lengths her prospective mother-in-law is going to in the lead up to nuptials
- The US-based woman said her fiancé’s mother is paying for a $100,000 wedding despite the couple wanting to elope
- The mother-in-law presented the bride with a contract to sign to confirm that she would only have one child
- Bride was given an ultimatum to sign contract or forgo the wedding celebration she has planned for them
- Action said to be ‘out of character’ for the mother-in-law who is usually ‘gracious’ and ‘generous’
- Bride was urged to ‘run’ and ‘elope’ by supportive commentors online
A distraught bride-to-be took shared the insane ask demanded by her mother-in-law, who is insisting she sign a contract to confirm she will only have one child or else forgo her wedding.
The US-based woman shared the ordeal on Reddit, to a community designated for rants about ‘toxic mother-in-laws’. The post detailed how the bride-to-be’s mother-in-law has ‘suddenly’ presented the couple with the contract.
The viral post has attracted hundreds of comments from concerned users who have told the bride to refuse to sign it, even if it risks the mother-in-law pulling the funding for the lavish wedding which she insisted on throwing in the first place.
Contract: A distraught bride seeks social media’s help after her future mother-in-law insisted she sign a contract confirming she would only have one child (stock image)
The bride, who said her own parents are deceased, clarified that her mother-in-law is usually ‘generous’, ‘gracious’ and ‘considerate’. She also noted that the contract is ‘out of character’ for her prospective in-law.
However, the bride’s lengthy Reddit post implies the opposite and rings some warning bells.
‘My fiancé’s mother has been generous enough to foot the bill for the entire wedding since she’s mainly the one who wanted it to be a large affair anyway. I’ve let her have free reigns with the planning and she’s allowed to invite whoever she wants as I don’t have that many family members, and fiancé keeps his friend circle very small,’ she began.
‘As the wedding is getting closer, MIL suddenly presented us with a contract stating that I am only allowed to have one child and must immediately get on contraception after his/her birth. I have literally never heard of anyone being in a remotely similar situation to this before and am pretty sure it has no legal standing at all,’ she added.
Later in the comments section, the bride confirmed that the mother-in-law is ‘very well connected, resourceful and intelligent’.
‘She is the type who always has lawyers on retainer if need be. She has not yet stated that she will use the court of law against us, but with the contract and everything I’m afraid it is a possibility. Even if we do get our own lawyer, I’m not sure how effective it would be against what she is capable of,’ she said.
Character: The bride confirmed that this behavior is unusual for the mother-in-law, who has been planning the couple’s wedding despite their desire to elope
The bride, known as user bringmetassadar, and her fiancé are unsure of how to act since being presented with the ‘ultimatum’ of ‘either signing the contract’ or having the matriarch ‘cut all of her funding for [the] wedding’.
‘This wedding has gotten extremely expensive (in the hundred thousands), and while we are grateful, the fiancé and I were planning on eloping to begin with since we couldn’t afford it and had no desire to have a large celebration,’ the bride added.
While she is unsure how many children she does plan on having, she is aware that the ‘absolutely insane’ demand still matters.
As the post gained a huge amount of attention online, the woman said she had sought the advice of a lawyer.
When commentors began to ask if perhaps the contract was a ‘trap’ to excuse the mother-in-law for pulling funding, the bride said it potentially could be.
‘I don’t know if the entire thing was a planned trap because initially I just assumed that it was normal for my fiancé’s family to have such elaborate celebrations. We thought his mother was just doing her part to impress her social circle (they keep up with the joneses) and didn’t want to take that away from her by eloping,’ she said.
Thus far, all of the wedding organization – with multiple professional planners – has been signed for in the name of the mother-in-law. However, the bride noted that she did not feel that her future relative was making it about herself.
‘She’s basically planning the wedding herself with a team of wedding planners, but has definitely made sure that I feel included in the experience and that it centers around me and my big day.’
‘I believe that her actions are genuine when she spends time with me planning since she acts like a true mother would and is adamant that she wants to basically ‘make all of my dreams come true’, but just in a more elaborate way that would be acceptable for her guests, rather than the courthouse elopement that I am partial to.’
If the mother-in-law does cut the finances for the extravagant wedding, the bride said that she and her future husband will not be able to afford it.
‘My fiancé has kind of strayed from his family’s preferred lifestyle and is doing a lot of non profit humanitarian work; this is how we met. Because of this he’s also forfeited his trust fund and while we are happy living the way that we do, the type of wedding that we would have been able to afford on our own would have been unacceptable for [future mother-in-law’s] standards.
The bride added that her fiancé has been ‘surprised’ but maintains that ‘everything will be alright’.
‘He thinks she will get over it and won’t care how many kids we pop out when the time comes. He thinks she’ll love them regardless. But I can tell he is a bit nervous about testing her and worried about why she’s acting this way.’
Making the scenario all the more bizarre, in the past the mother-in-law has expressed excitement over becoming a grandmother.
Support: Hundreds of comments told the bride to stand her ground and not give in to the mother-in-law’s demands; many told her to just elope as she wished
‘She occasionally makes comments about how she will spoil our child in ways that we cannot, and that she has no problem sending our child to schools and programs that are out of our reach,’ the bride recalled.
‘We cannot think of any reasons why she might want us to limit our offspring. The fiancé and I both have siblings that we love very much. She doesn’t have any ties to any religious groups or cults that might influence her. She is a fairly logical and level headed woman otherwise,’ she added.
Furious and concerned commentors stormed the post to tell the bride to tread carefully. The general consensus was also that the couple should ‘run’ and ‘elope’ as they initially planned.
‘Cancel it all and walk away. Elope with your SO and do not let her control anything else in your life. She is ridiculous and can get bent,’ a comment urged.
Another said, ‘I hope you haven’t personally signed a contract to pay anything. She’s an extortionist, and she is bats**t insane. Don’t pay the old bat a dime. Run like the wind from that crazy and elope.’
One user suggested that the couple ‘leak’ the contract to the woman’s friends and ‘sit back and enjoy the show’.
Others warned that this was likely just the beginning.
‘She’s [losing] control. A lot of Mom’s are fine until a major life change (puberty, moving out, marriage, first kid) shows that they are not in control anymore. If I was in your shoes, and facing a narc (which you are), the answer is to not give them an inch. … just keep it completely unemotional and let her know that she is not an authority in your life, and she will not have any control over you.’
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