I can't get exciting affair out of my mind even though partner has taken me back | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I CANNOT get my ex-lover out of my mind, after I left my partner for him.

Six months on, I’m back with my partner and I know I want to be with him, but why can’t I get the naughty ex out of my mind?

I’m a woman of 29 and my partner is 32. I’m cabin crew for a long-haul airline and because I was going through a rough patch at home, when a colleague of 35 turned his attention to me, I lapped it up.

We started an affair, which lasted three months. We even joined the mile-high club.

But it all came crashing down when my partner saw a text from him.

He ended it and went back to his mother’s.

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My affair was short-lived, so when I asked my ex-partner whether he’d take me back, he agreed.

We are as happy as anything now but why can’t I forget my fling and those sexual encounters?

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DEIDRE SAYS: It is easy for sex to become dull when you’ve been together a while.

Your lover offered excitement, clandestine hook-ups and raunchy sex.

It’s natural for your mind to wander to sexy memories rather than the reality of someone who leaves his pants on the floor and is perhaps a lazy lover.

But your partner deserves your full attention after what you put him through, so spice things up in the bedroom by taking hints from my pack called 50 Ways To Put The Sparkle Into Sex.

This should keep you focused on him and not your ex-lover.

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