I want to please my girlfriend in bed but after my addiction hell she sees me differently | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER she stood by me during a bad time in my life, I want to make my girlfriend feel good in the bedroom again.

I am 38, she is 35 and we have been together for five years.


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She has been so supportive, helping me through the drug and alcohol abuse that plagued me for a very long time.

Finally, I am getting the professional help I so badly needed, one step at a time.

I was in denial about my addictions and put my girlfriend through hell.

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The problem is, she doesn’t climax like she once did. She always used to have an orgasm during foreplay.

I think it might be a mental block, caused by me letting her down so badly with my addiction.

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DEIDRE SAYS: She may well be struggling with a lack of desire because she feels resentful.

Your girlfriend stuck by you when you were at your worst and she will have been fully aware of your actions.

You, on the other hand, might not have been.

Sex with an addict may not have been enjoyable, especially if it was rough.

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Your girlfriend sounds as if she is struggling to push these memories aside and enjoy sexual intimacy now that you are in recovery.

Counselling will help. Try contacting cosrt.org.uk (020 8106 9635), which can put you in touch with a reputable therapist.

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