I had a ‘no gifts’ policy at my child’s birthday – people call me horrible but I think I’m right | The Sun

YOU may think that a child’s birthday is a chance for them to be spoiled and receive gifts from family and friends – but that’s not the case for this mum.

One mum has taken to Mumsnet to ask if she’s being unreasonable for wanting to have a no gift policy at the child's birthday party – banning the guests from giving her child any birthday presents.

The anonymous mum writes: “My DC [darling child] is having a third birthday party which 25 other children will attend. Is it ok to ask that no gifts be given by the other children? My DC will be given a couple of significant presents by me and my DH [darling husband]

“I find the flood of gifts for birthdays and Xmas these days completely overwhelming and I don't want it to become the norm for my DC. We already have so much.”

Commenters were quick to criticise the mother, with one writing: “I think that would make your child feel very sad tbh. It really isn't about you.”

Another argued: “It's not about you but your child, how will they feel when all their other friends get presents on their birthdays? What about when they are invited to other parties and you take a present and he'll wonder why he didn't get any?”

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Similarly, a third argued: “I think part of the magic of parties and birthdays at that age is having a little pile of presents to open, not just two carefully chosen gifts from Mom. I'm sure he WILL love the gifts you've brought, but he'll also love the book Tommy got him and the jigsaw Jules got him etc.

“He'll soon be at an age to realise he takes a present to parties but no one buys him back. Do they not like him? Do they need other people to buy them things because they're poor? Etc”

Others suggest other things that could be done instead of forcing a blanket no gift policy: “If you don't want lots of gifts then have a smaller celebration next time,” wrote one Mumset user.

Defending herself in the comments, the mum wrote: “I don't think he will feel hard done by given the presents he will receive from me and my DH, but maybe that's wrong.

"It just doesn't sit right with me. We don't need loads more stuff. He will be delighted with the 2 presents my DH and I have bought for him.”

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While most continue criticising, there were a couple of fellow mums defending her.

One such mum parent wrote: “You can certainly say no gifts please (and many parents will thank you for it!). Kids enjoy a party. Lots of stuff is overwhelming for adults, imagine what it's like for a child!”

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